This requires sensitivity and restraint, which is true for wanting other people to change in any way. We believe we are doing it for their good, but when we try to control others, we let our disappointments be known when they do not measure up. Since people resist being controlled, this dynamic can lead to very counterproductive behaviors and poison the relationship. So be aware that controlling or manipulative behavior is a warning sign, and as this type of behavior can quickly escalate, it’s essential to address it early and to set healthy boundaries.